They look, but they dont touch

"You spot a target yet?" yells one of my girls over the music.
"Ive seen some but I'm not sure about this setting and dynamic," I yell back into her ear.

We checked out Suite Nightclub last night. A posh spot filled with a musical mix of the latest hits, ladies in their best dresses, and men in their metro-sexual " I look good" outfits. Most importantly, the clientele were all 10's. Everyone was beautiful or at least tucked in and pulled out whatever they needed to in order to become a 10. You don't find Milwaukee's Best all hanging out at one location, so I was very pleased to have several options. The problem was, the dynamic.

The music was loud (as you can only expect for a dance club), it was crowded, and you had the usual group of people who stood on the sidelines like they were too cool for school. When it comes to nightclubs, I tuck that cool card away and get ready for a good time. So that's what the ladies and I did. We grooved to the bass, occasionally letting our lips linger on our champagne flutes. Just looking sexy as shit. Or maybe not sexy enough...

I got a lot of lingering looks from the assembled wallflowers, but NO action. A group of 5 gentleman had to pick their jaws off the ground when I walked by, but no one said a word. They only whispered and smiled back and forth to each other. In another instance I made eye contact with an interest. He looked back at me giving me the "sexy eye". I gave him a nod that clearly said, come over here. Did he move a beat. Nope. Just took a swig of his drink with his eyes, still, locked on me. Maybe that drink did something for him, because 20mins later we danced to two songs together. Never exchanging a word. Then he walked away as if he was satisfied with what he got, not needing more. What?!?! Its like he just hit it and quit it. Wierd!

Lastly I decided to make a move and see what happened. I spotted the perfect guy for me. Great build, clean cut, beautiful smile, and chocolate skin. I sashayed on over to him, tapped his right hand, placed my card in it, gave a smile/nod and walked back to my wing lady. Oh yeah it felt smooth...but today I realize it was passive. Homeboy has no idea what to do with what I gave him now. Instead he just has the pride of being picked up by a female without any effort.

All in all, it turned out to be a fun and informative night. My girls and I looked great. We drank, we danced, we admired, and we met a really cool group of guys who just enjoyed dancing for the fun of it. By the end of the night, we exchanged information. Hopefully they will invite us to their next danceathon, because they were a great time.

So what did SistaYvonne learn:

1. Having a good wing lady helps so much with your confidence, mood, and vibe. Thanks chica!

2. Do not be passive if you hit on a guy. Dropping them a gift and then leaving makes them interested, but also leaves them hanging. They have no idea who you are, and what you are really about. Hence the reason why the PUA Bible says do not buy a woman a drink. Anyone can do that, but how many people can hold a good conversation?

3. A nightclub is NOT the best places to work on your pick up skills. Its a hard dynamic due to the given atmosphere.

4. If you are in a location with nearly all 10's that means you are not the only Alpha Female in the room. Therefore, dont expect every man to fall all over you. They have options, so they can be picky. Just as women may not take their first pick when walking in a room, men wont either.

What I need to work on:

1. Using my eyes and smile to get a guy to do more than just eye me and smile back.

2. More ways to start a conversation and approaching someone without being awkward. The drop off and run doesn't work. Trust me. I now know.

3. How to grab the energy of a room and take it over. Basically, become a magnet, all eyes on me.

Stay tuned for my next adventure. And if you are in Milwaukee, or know about the area, I would LOVE suggestions as to good places to check out for finding a diverse group of men.