Not Again!!!!

Get ready for this one. And maybe I feel like a turtle out of its shell because this occurred 30min. ago or it could just be a straight up awkward and uncomfortable situation... again.

So the ladies and I roll up to Mikey's. Yep the perfect ladies night with pearl vodka cocktails. We are an eclectic group. Four different shapes, ethnicities, and energies. Its truly beautiful. We ruled the bar, Alpha Females to the max. Then I see my target. A smooth brother with a fitted white t-shirt, hat, and clean cut beard. He was a little short for my taste, but I could deal for now. Heck, I just need to practice with what I got, right?

This time I try the 50/50 Abigail. What does that mean? Founded by my partner in crime, Abigail, this is a personal seductive move ingrained in this woman's body. There are two elements. You can use one, or the other, or both for maximum effect. Sexy smile - nod of the chin to the shoulder - with a twist. Or the point and hither. Point three times at him, and then beckon three times to yourself. I decided on the point and hither. Worked instantly. (It also helped that we made eye contact 1min. earlier).

He approaches the table, we make small talk, I give him my card and tell him it was nice meeting him. Yeah buddy! I closed off the situation this time. Then other men started coming in, and us ladies were still the Alpha Females. We could have grabbed any man that we wanted up in that piece. To add on to our glory, homeboy comes back with my card in his hand, makes a suggestion of another bar to check out. Card. In. Hand. What does that mean? That means homeboy has been showing off my card to the other brothas' that walked in, and thinking about the short conversation that transpired between us earlier.

Then it happened.

Once Again Insert "Ughhhh" Here.

Who walks in... but the man I kind of dated for about 3 1/2wks and things ended off REALLY BADLY. I was definitely the bigger woman out of it, but we are NOT on speaking terms. Man Milwaukee is just too Motha' F'in' Small!!!! I have never seen this dude out since we broke things off. And the one night I am trying to do my thang he pops up. Go Figure.

So I play it cool, inform the ladies that Mista' Man has walked in. I go to the bathroom. My Eastern sista' comes in.

"Hey you wanna know something funny? Your Old boy is talking to your target." WHAT?!?!?!

A.) Old boy has probably seen my business card with my picture on it from New Boy.

B.) Old boy might have made a comment about me to New boy.

C.) I have to make contact with New boy before the end of the night and now its going to be all types of weird!

We leave the bathroom, the bar has cleared a little, and of course there's Old boy talking to New boy. Two of my girls decide they need to leave early. My Eastern sista', a male friend of ours, who has just arrived, and myself stay to finish up our drinks.

Now its time for us to leave. What do I do?

Well...I decide to do nothing. Which I announced, but apparently not all parties heard. I walk out quickly not even looking toward Old or New boy with my girl trailing behind. We reach outside, and my girl turns to me and says, "I awkwardly lagged behind a little and looked over at the men because I thought you were going to say good bye."

Insert another "Ughhhh" here.

She told me that New boy waved really awkwardly at my back, Old boy tried to look away while I was booking it out the door. Take a moment to picture that in your head. *Moment* Yeah... looks messy to me too.

What did we learn from this trip:

1. The 50/50 Abigail works like a charm, even from long distances across the room.

2. Milwaukee is REALLY small.

3. You can end any conversation you want by giving information, saying Ill talk to you later in the night, or alluding to possibly meeting up again next week at the same spot.

What do I need help with:

1. Stop allowing past encounters to hinder my game

2. As an Alpha Female, do not show off that you know you are among Alpha Females in any location.

So now I just hope New boy gives me a call and Old boy hasn't said a thing to him about me and our past situation. Ill let you know. Oh and as a follow up with Target #1 from my first night, he emailed me today saying we should party this weekend together. I'm still deciding on how to respond and what I really want. What do yall think???