I had a great conversation with my ex-boyfriend tonight on why guys do not approach females. I have been singing to the heavens that females feel neglected by men of today. I walk around with some of the hottest girls in town and we are not given the time of day. Maybe a look, a smile, a nod, a whisper about us to one of their friends; words that never reach our yearning ears. Nothing proactive. What does a girl have to do get some attention???
"Its not you, its them". Says my boy in South Carolina.
"But, why! I just want a conversation, a hello, hell, a date if it comes to that. I am among the thousands of females on this earth experiencing a drought. We are in need of sustenance." I retorted back.
As Mr. Carolina described it, men are intimidated. What he told me actually made sense. We have all seen the girls at the clubs in their stilettos, shiny cute dresses, and hair and nails done to the nine. They look good and even you are intimidated by their beauty. Well have you ever thought that you may look like that to men and not even know it. No, we do not all look the same, have the same style, nor dress like those gorgeous girls at the clubs. Each of us have our personal characteristics that make men intimidated.
Mr. Carolina said that I may not dress like a Kardashian but my style is in their range and my demeanor comes off as a girl you can not just sleep with. Then he described one of my girlfriends. She dresses much plainer, but she is a pretty girl that a man doesn't want to disappoint or lead a stray. OK, well at least I got a bit of a confidence boost and now know men don't think I am a pariah. But still, I don't want to be neglected just because I am seen as a catch that they are unsure of being able to get. Nor do I want to lower my standards or personal characteristics in order to help boost male confidence.
So whats a girl to do?
Well... I don't have an answer. The solution for now is to wait and know that there are go-getter men out there who will hopefully approach me in the near future. We shall see!
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Ok, so here's what I think. It is 2009. Times have changed like woah, and I'm sorry, but I think I was one of the unlucky few who did not recieve this memo. I started this year thinking right tho. I was brand new to the single scene middle of last year, and for not much longer *crosses fingers* , when I realized that I had no idea how to date. I cant even interview for a new job. I have a job,lol but when i moved, interviews scared the hell outta me. Dating to me is one big interview, once u get that first approach over.. Nothing but questions, and you never know what kind of impression you're making do you? You hope it's good, but u could be wrong. ok, back to why i was writing this in the first place, lol- Men have become lazy when it comes to the approach. Not when they're trying to hit and quit,.. but an actual approach? LAZY! I have been told several times that guys out 'looking' are, just like you learned, out for the bootay. They are intimidated by the good ones, and assume, a girl who makes it her point to approach him, she must want that too. I was told a while back to skip out on the bar/club/party scene, and head to barnes and noble lol. Not my first thought when thinking of a place to meet other singles... do u think the guys are more approaching, and approachable without the loud music and booze?, Is it even appropiate to think an approach is possible at a randomn place like a book store? Is their first thought now, not going to be, 'oh yea, i would hit that'? - anyway, so i pretty much wrote my own blog.. it was just supposed to be a reponse, so ill shut up now -sheenaj
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