My Platonic Friend

Mr. DJ, who we met in our last episode, messaged me on facebook asking for my phone number. I told him that I enjoy making new friends, but if he is trying to do anything more than that, then I will not be passing on my phone number. We ended up exchanging numbers. I only know so many people in the area, so why not?

Three days later, I was the victim of a series of unfortunate events while attempting to hunt for men solo. So I decided to call him in hopes that the company and attention would improve my night.

When Mr. DJ and I spoke on the phone, he stated that I was a platonic friend so he did not have to get dressed for the night. I laughed and told him that was fine, but I would still be looking good. Why was he smelling of cologne and looking all sweet when he picked me up? MmmmHmmm, platonic friend my ass.

We headed to P.J. Whelihans which is a great bar/ restaurant for first time "meet-ups". TVs lined the walls and two guitarists sat on the porch playing for a small crowd. We opted for the bar area, put in our order of a rum and pineapple and a Heinekin with appetizers, and began to get to know each other a little better.

He made me laugh with his crazy stories about women picking him up in Jamaica and his ridiculous metaphors that only Caribbean people can put together. The funniest thing of the evening was how he ended every couple of sentences with "my platonic friend". He stated those words but his physical mannerisms were not representative of it. I never felt uncomfortable throughout the night, but he definitely cop'd a stroke of the thigh, a grab at the hand, and a kiss on the cheek. Mr. DJ has a way of turning almost everything into a joke. Although his touches, gazes, and flattery were all for fun there was truth under it all. Yep he wanted some of this, but I handled it by making it clear that we were only going to be friends. He heard me well and verbally agreed, but I don't know how well he actually listened to my statement.

Mr. DJ is a very generous and sweet person. I really enjoyed our evening together because he gave me the attention I wanted. Yes this is selfish, but its the truth. The problem with this is that I need to learn how to not lead people on. I have a tendancy to flirt and be suggestive even when I know that if he had the chance he would hop on this. Its nearly the same way I act with other male friends but I should be taking a step back since he does have a little crush.

We are supposed to get together again this coming week. I am not going to be a tease, but I am going to be myself and figure out how to be a real platonic friend.