Lessons from the club

Taylor's Nightclub was the spot last night in Cherry Hill NJ. And I was in for a great surprise. I was w/ my cousin, sister, and her boyfriend and ended up meeting three male friends there too. I had yet to work my skills among a large group. Especially one that had so many men. Also like I attested in one of my other posts, nightclubs are not a good place for picking up men. But of course, you know I still had to tread those waters to see if there was an opportunity. Here is what I found.

1. I found at least three men who fell into my type category, but they were not interested in talking or dancing with a sista' w/ natural twists. They were there for another breed. I'm trying not to hate. I am just a bit full of myself, if you haven't noticed yet

2. I grabbed a sensible target who I could tell just by the way he danced that we were on the same level. Some chic dropped down in the splits and was popping. I turned to him and said, "I cant do that." He replied, "I don't want you to do that. That is too much". "Okay," I thought, "he's got class". What turned me off from him is that he got aggravated every time someone stepped into our dancing space. Translation - Short Temper. Woman beater maybe? LOL! Naw I am not going to jump to conclusions.

3. This brings me to a point about dancing. Work it out whenever you are dancing. Toss that hair, roll that body, and pop the booty if you got it. But do know everyone is watching and the good ones, don't like unclassy women. Please do not put your leg in the air. Do not allow a man to lift you up. Do not sit on a man's lap when there is plenty of space around you to sit. Furthermore, do not find yourself dancing with a man backed up against the wall in a corner. People see this, and start to make assumptions. It also takes away the fun and mystery of the little secrets you save for those who really deserve it.

4. I danced with a decent looking, obviously older, man. He was wearing a tight black shirt that was tucked in...who else does that? It was nice dancing with him, but he was way too pushy. I started dancing with someone else and then he was grabbing my arm to try and buy me a drink. Not attractive nor persuasive. I don't know you and you do not know me. He got an F minus!

5. Bringing water to the pool never helps your situation. Guys were not intimidated by the fact that I had other male friends around, but my men were not afraid to cut in when they saw me dancing with someone else. Yeah... so I just let it be because there was no way I was going to strike up a converstaion at the time of the night And didn't even worry about it.

6. Once again a good wing lady helps out your situation a ton. I have some WL's in training with a bit of a different background. So the dynamic will be different from what I am used to but having support and encouragement is always helpful.

Last night was a good night. I can not wait to try some more out in this area, because I finally have some tangible options to play with. Till next time...